When I first started studying and practicing the Law of Attraction, I thought that having any kind of negative thought or feeling was going to manifest terrible things into my life. This is common when starting out with the law of attraction - it is easy to get freaked out about any kind of negativity if you buy into the idea that you must stay positive at all times and completely ignore and push aside any and all negativity.
But soon enough, I learned that that is not actually the case! You are not going to manifest literally every thought that you have. There is actually a time lapse between thought and manifestation; this is why we say that what we focus on grows - it only manifests if you focus on it and let it expand, and if you put a lot of emotion behind it.
And ironically, avoiding negativity is actually a way to expand it - because you are still focused on it since you are working SO HARD to avoid it. Your attention is still on it.
But in my own experiences, I have discovered that negativity serves a legitimate purpose and should not be avoided entirely.
I never would have changed my life or be where I am now if not for having experienced negativity. I was increasingly becoming unhappy in my relationships and living situation; but without that emotion of unhappiness, I might never had decided that I needed to change, that my life needed to change. I may never have figured out what I genuinely wanted and gone after it.
Because that is the purpose negativity serves; it shows you where changes need to be made, and it also brings your attention to what you actually do want.
For example: when my living situation a few years ago suddenly started making me feel terrible, I started becoming more aware of what I didn’t want - which then by contrast showed me what I did want; which at the time was simply to find my dream relationship (manifested!) and get my own place (manifested!). Those ideas never occurred to me until I went through that negative time period.
Now, if you are familiar at all with Abraham and Esther Hicks, you will know that they teach the importance of simply feeling good - and nothing more than that. Feeling good in general is definitely a great place to start and does trump the need to manifest (in other words: instead of working SO HARD to manifest, simply make it a point to just be feeling good.)
Handling negativity doesn’t have be stressful or an overly emotional experience. I absolutely love to take deep breaths when I start feeling like crap. I stop and pause, close my eyes and take a deep breath in and let it out slowly. I do this a couple of times if need be.
The key is to do what I like to call “face it and replace it” - simply acknowledge what you are feeling, be accepting of it, let it go and then replace it with something better feeling (even if it only feels a little better - even a little better still feels better. Just keep reaching for better and better and better.)
What it’s really about is bouncing back.
It’s all in how we handle it.
How do you bounce back from negativity?