IT STARTS WITH SELF TALK
Have you ever thought to yourself, “I would really love such and such thing, but I couldn’t have it because such and such reason”?
Whether it’s money, a lover, a dream home, or absolutely anything, if we don’t believe we can have it, if we don’t believe we deserve it, it is that much harder to manifest.
Here’s an example: you want to manifest your dream lover, your soulmate, the person you will spend the rest of your life with, but you are telling yourself he/she doesn’t exist, you don’t deserve a great love like that for x reasons, you’re too this or that, or not enough this or that to have your soulmate, there’s no one out there for you, or any myriad of similar thoughts.
Well, the universe is listening, and despite what you WANT, what is being sent out via your vibration is, “Don’t give me this,” and believe me when I say that the universe WILL deliver– even if it’s a non-delivery.
This is why a self love type of vibe is so important. Radiate out that you deserve to have a wonderful life and the more you practice this, the better the things that show up in your life will be.
Will it happen over night? Not really. Confidence is something you build. Pep talk yourself. Take yourself on a date and enjoy time to yourself. Do things you love to do that make you happy to be alive. Practice these things routinely and you WILL see a difference in your life.
HOW I DID IT
When I started my self love journey, I began with talking to myself better. Instead of tearing myself down for little things, or berating myself for making mistakes, and telling myself that I was ugly and fat, I started saying better things. It was a struggle at first. For so long I had believed these things about myself, so telling myself the opposite didn’t feel true at first.
And it won’t. It’ll feel fake as hell. But you have to keep the practice up. Eventually, your beliefs will change, and it’ll not only feel real, it’ll BE real.
After I had done this for a little while, I started getting compliments like crazy. Because as I started to believe in myself more, so did others.
And yeah, the compliments totally helped, and that’s okay. While your confidence and happiness doesn’t come from other people, knowing that others see you in a positive light can absolutely boost your confidence.
MAKE IT A PRACTICE
Some days, you will love yourself fiercely and some days you won’t. It’s okay. It’s part of the journey. It does get easier as you go along though. Just keep to a routine of some kind for a couple of weeks and you should start to see a difference! That’s why it’s called a practice.